How A Rebound Relationship Can Work In Your Favor
You have broken up with the love of your life and she is in a rebound relationship, how do you get her back?
What we call a rebound relationship is where she is dating someone else to get over you. Rebound relationships keep people from having to face the emotions of breaking up. People mostly use them to move on from a real love.
And that is the key to getting your ex back. The reason why she is in a rebound relationship is to deal with the fact that she is losing you.
It does not matter why she lost you. If it is your fault her fault does not maatter. It does not even matter who actually called the relationship off. What matters is that you have a real love.
Because virtually all relationships founded on real love can be saved.
If she is in a rebound relationship, her focus will be on what was wrong in you relationship. And you know what if you were a good guy she will probably be hanging out with a bad boy. If you were into philosophy, he will be watching Monday Night Football. Or, vice versa.
The fact that she is actually focusing on the differences in your styles is is great for you for more than one reason. Her attention is still focused on you even when she is with the new guy. And, it gives you a chance to see what she is looking for.
If she is with someone as different from you as possible, it properly means that she missed that or something else in your relationship. You should spend you time when she is with rebound to improve yourself.
Rebound relationships are there for a reason let it run its course. Because, as she spends time with the new guy, she will start to see the flaws in him. After a month or so with rebound man, you will start to look pretty good.
Now you know why you do not want to crawl back to her right away. Let her develop the idea that she misses the good things in the relationship. When she is ready to make a move, be magnanimous. Welcome her back graciously. But do not chase her, be a new improved boyfriend.
Here are some specific steps to take when your ex is in a rebound relationship:
Do not try to convince her that you are the love of her life. Let her discover this on her own.
Do not apologize profusely. If you did something wrong, you can say you are sorry. Once. But move on. She knows the real reason she loves you.
Do not make promises to change. You are who you are and that is who she fell in love with.
Do not try to make her see that it was not your fault. She will come to appreciate that over time but only if you have not made her invest energy in defending her position that it was your fault.
Never, ever beg her to take you back.
When you ex starts going out with someone just after you break up, she is in a rebound relationship. You can make up with her and get back together. Do not despair. The rebound relationship is a sign that she is still in love with you.
